they break the chain of seeking a sense of OK-ness externally.

For people that haven’t yet fully realized that all of us need to be emotionally responsible (which is most people), this is where much of the pain of the breakup originates from (they blame themselves for not “measuring up”…

Sometimes in a relationship, a guy will really, really love a girl and may start to compromise these core values.

Maybe he changes his lifestyle, stops hanging out with certain friends, or changes his habits.

(Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a monster, I won’t completely cut a girl off, but I definitely won’t discuss anything along a relationship conversational thread.) This could be for a few reasons.

In the case where you dumped the guy, one common reason is that the guy doesn’t want to be alone, he doesn’t want to deal with his grief over the breakup, and he doesn’t want to “deal with himself.” When he jumps into another relationship, he can get a dose of external female validation and derive a feeling of false sense of self-esteem and self-worth from her positive attention.

When a person (male or female) realizes that only they themselves can be responsible for their emotions, actions, and reactions…

A guy once told me that, “A man is devastated at the end of a relationship to the extent to which he sold himself out.” What does it mean for a guy to sell himself out (in the context of a relationship)?

Every guy has a set of core values for who he is, what he stands for, and what he really wants out of life.

and therefore sets countless impossible expectations into motion.

When we believe something that is out of alignment with reality, we suffer…